Parakalein

A few weeks ago I wrote about "just say "thank you".

Today meeting with a couple I found myself talking about the "law of Appreciation".  I had not heard or spoken of it before then realized that it was helpful.  They had fallen into the spell of dis-appreciation. I recalled hearing my wife say, Why do you always get in my way (this is specifically in reference to her kitchen privilege which I adore namely her cooking".  So why do I get in her way when she is trying to care for my hungry parts.  My defensive parts want to say I am just trying o be helpful but if getting in the way of what I want her to do that is cook a wonderful meal that makes me feel loved, why would I argue with her .  Just get the hell out of the kitchen you say.  Yes I agree.  I am gone.

The law of appreciation says if I appreciate the person with whom I have chosen to share space.  I will not depreciate that person's presence.  On the other side.  If I appreciate her I will not crowd into her space.  Nor will I depreciate the part of me that wants to be helpful just move its helpfulness to a later and more cooperative time or space.

Sharing space without depreciating each other and also appreciating each other provides a wonder-filled space called "couple appreciation".  When I learn to appreciate all the parts of my wife and she all my parts the parts that feel depreciated with not take precedent over the parts that feel appreciated nor vice versa.

If we extend this sense of community to our world nations will learn to appreciate each other.  The law of appreciation will result in a world of peace and justice.  Injustice and confusion are the result the result of feeling depreciated therefore defensive.   It is an automatic reactive protection that denies the discipline necessary for community building. It is reactive defiance and defense that creates compliance or defiance. Peace and justice is about all parts in me and you feeling appreciated in an act of willful discipline.

The law of appreciation is that if you appreciate others, others will appreciate you.  When everyone feels appreciated there i snot need for dominance or control.  The parts that want to depreciate because they feel  unappreciated will give way to the part that "appreciates everyone and everything.

Sharing space whether in the kitchen or in the world is about living the "law of appreciation".