There are I think many levels of forgiveness and many stages. Over the next few days I will share soem thoughts on this topic.
First I am thinking these days that forgiveness is not something I have to do for others. Maybe it is even something that I cannot do. When I am told I have to forgive someone it feels like a part of me has been hurt or wounded and it is being told to just let it go and get over it. The part feels that that becomes a secondary offense. It does not want to get over it. It wants to be heard and validated. It does want to get over feeling badly, being angry, and it actually wants to forgive but it does not want to let the offender off the hook.
What a dilemma.
If I do not forgive. I am bad because people tell me I need to forgive just as God for Christ sake forgave me.
If i do forgive, the part of me that feels hurt is feeling ignored, pushed aside, and uncared for.
About Me
- Don Paine
- I am a pastor and a clinical psychotherapist. My life's passion is defining healthiness from a human perspective and paralleling it to the holiness of God, divine perspective. Shifting perspectives creates a paradigm that is alongside of rather than over and against. The parakalein of God and the paradoxes of humanity are redefined. Humanity is all about winning and yet we are losing ground everywhere. Divinity is all about letting go of the desire to win and the fear of loss. The Divine embraces the world with loving care regardless of anything.
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